GOING BEYOND
Introduction
Discerning
the Spiritual Path
One of my abiding memories is of sitting on a limestone outcrop
partway up a hill in the Yorkshire Dales. I had with me a pocket
bible and was reading Psalm 23 out loud. A group of sheep had
gathered round the rock, to listen I presumed. Indeed one or two
were laying down ruminating no doubt on the words of the Psalm.
My four children, having no wish to be associated with this ‘strange’
activity, had persuaded my wife to take them off a safe distance.
Why was I engaged in this pursuit? Because a Christian lady for whom
I had a deep respect had told me how the Psalms read aloud, as was
the writer’s intention, came to life. She maintained that this was
especially true if this took place out-of-doors in an environment
similar to that in which they were originally conceived. David, the
Shepherd King would, she thought, have enjoyed the idea of his psalm
being read to the sheep!
This story had an interesting sequel when some years later one of my
sons camping alone on a hillside in Cumbria during an Outward Bound
Course, similarly read Psalm 121 to some sheep and the night sky. He
told us that, having done so, he no longer felt alone.
Why are these experiences relevant to what follows? Because they
demonstrated that inspired words have great power as well as
interesting outcomes. Both of us in our different ways found
inspiration in looking beyond our immediate situations to what
someone else had revealed three thousand or so years before.
Discovering the spiritual within and around us and allowing it to
grow is, to say the very least, uplifting. As we pay attention to
the nature of that within, so we grow. As we grow, so our awareness
of the spiritual in others and around us will heighten. What is
offered here are some pointers I have discovered as I have followed
that spiritual path.
Why have I chosen to do this? Because it seems to me that we have,
as a people, reached another one of the crossroads which are regular
features of the human journey. Especially in our Western world, the
old certainties of the Christian faith have been swept away. The
debris left behind offers little by way of spiritual guidance. But
that is not to say it cannot be found by diligent search.
If there is anything to be learned from junctions or turning points
in the human journey it is surely that the rapid abandonment of
previous structures and behaviour is likely to leave people
struggling to find a solid basis for their lives. This is especially
so when it comes to what may be seen as the important questions life
poses. For example: what, if anything, comes after bodily death is a
question which has no answer other than that provided by an
individual’s faith whether that be in atheism or some other belief.
For many who have abandoned a formal religion, which at least
provided a basis or starting point for understanding, nothing has
taken its place other than in a somewhat vague ‘pick and mix’
way.
For those who are prepared to probe a little deeper, the exploration
of a surprising continuity can be discovered which I call the Beyond.
I do this for two reasons: firstly because it is beyond my
understanding although within my experience and, secondly just
because it represents the link with the here and now but beyond
death.
For me the Beyond has been caught in glimpses, some of which I share
here. My purpose in doing so is to encourage others to search for
themselves, as well as to provide reassurance to the hesitant.
Finally, by way of introduction I offer this thought. In the first
half of our lives we tend to be busy with all those activities which
fill our time and use our seemingly limitless energy. Each of us,
however, inevitably reaches the day that provides a sharp reminder of
our mortality. Wisdom suggests that we might find it helpful in
response to consider taking stock. We can also choose to make doing
so as a regular part of life similar to those other features that we
see as part of the rhythm of our day. I hope that these thoughts may
offer for some a starting point in that process.
Each of the chapters that follow is preceded by a set of tasks which
are designed to provide a focus for very specific and careful
consideration of your life. Whereas it is my experience that most
people prefer to answer questions before reading the chapter, it may
be more useful for some to answer afterwards. It is your choice.
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Task 1
Life unfolding: Three
important words.
1) SEE:
What do you see as being the purpose or objective of your life?
2) CHOOSE: What
activities do you choose to engage in and why?
Do they stem from the view you have of life and, if so, how do they
help?
3) SELECT: How
do you choose who to spend time with?
Again, do your selections help forward the purpose or objectives
given in answer to question 1?
Chapter One
Where
are you going? - Time and how to use it.
What do you see as being the point of your life? Indeed, do you see
life as anything other than an experience to be lived? How have you
gone about choosing the activities in which you engage and the
companions you have selected to accompany you on life’s journey?
How much time do you spend looking at what you are doing and who you
spend time with and why? How do you see the choices you have made as
helping to achieve your objectives in life?
It is, I suspect, the most common opening gambit on meeting someone
for the first time to enquire how they occupy themselves. How do
they spend their time? Do they have a job? Establishing these
things tells us about their status and puts them into a category.
One of the joys of retirement is that saying one is retired keeps
people guessing about what we did when we worked. In other words it
puts off the categorising for just a little bit longer! The human
capacity for establishing a pecking order uses all sorts of tactical
ploys to gather information. Job, car, clothing and speech are just
a few of the clues which play their part in putting people into slots
which then allow us to decide where to place folk when we compare
them with ourselves and others. That, of course, still leaves
outstanding what for some is the biggest question of all, namely our
guess as to their wealth or lack of it!
When all this speculation is over we are still left with the unknown
quantity of how we decide whether this person is or is not worth
knowing. When it is put in that very blunt way we realise, with
something of a jolt perhaps, what we are actually doing and why. It
maybe because we are, after all, very busy people with very full
lives and we do not, as a result, have time to waste on folk who
really don’t fit into our schedules or those desirable categories
we want to cultivate. In other words, we may ask ourselves whether
we really want to ‘network’ this person in our lives.
Listening to some people with their lists and the value placed on
them, in fact speaks volumes about this assessment process. This
applies equally to the traits, jobs and connections of individuals we
assess as well as to the categories of groups and activities that
have to be evaluated and their priorities. Firstly there is the
‘tight-knit’ family with its prescribed demands dictated by, in
Western culture at least, the matriarch (mostly) or patriarch (from
time to time) who checks that the various aunts, uncles, cousins
brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces etc., have each received their
allocated amount of attention from us.
We are taught that no family worthy of the name can be anything other
than a ‘tight-knit’ one and our own immediate family takes pride
of place of course. Our ‘in-laws’ may get some sort of look-in
if they are lucky but they cannot really compete with ‘tight-knit’.
Secondly our jobs have to be accommodated, where ‘his’ often
takes pride of place and ‘hers’ has to fit in - although that
maybe changing.
Added to this are children’s activities, which have their own
singular importance and create, as a result, their own peculiar
problems. In some family structures there is, for example,
particularly in the case of sons, the reflected glory of the football
or rugby team and winning trophies. This means following in father’s
footsteps, and so the demand for space in the timetable trumps
everything else.
And then there are our friends. Here we have a peculiarly modern
problem. What does the word ‘friend’ actually mean? Are they
the people we communicate with on social networks? If so, how much
time do we spend on them? How often are we in touch with them? Is
there a difference in our minds, or indeed in reality, between the
quality of such ‘friendships’ and others where we actually meet
and talk to real live people? How do we judge the nature, importance
and, dare I say, maturity – or, indeed, value of our friendships
when allocating our time?
I couch the questions as I do because, in thinking about our response
to the question ‘who am I’, we begin to see that the answer is
already being shaped substantially by what other people make of us –
what they turn us into if you like. Who do we have to be if we are
not going to ‘rock the boat’? To what extent do we make
ourselves, in other words, fit into the demands made upon us? In
answering that question we have to bear in mind that what we have
looked at here so far, are just three sources of such demands: namely
family, work and friends.
So what do we look like in the picture we have created of ourselves?
It seems that this trinity of family role, job description and social
circle defines the picture we have put together so far, but is that
how we feel about it?
Being busy
Part of the problem that confronts many of us throughout our lives is
‘busyness.’ Like much of what we encounter, ‘sufficient’ is
good but we tend to stray on one side or the other of it. It is
probably fair to say that in our middle years we are inclined to be
too busy for a whole variety of reasons that allow us, we believe, to
justify a lifestyle which is in fact excessively rushed and crowded
rather than sufficient.
Why is that relevant to the question of the purpose and direction of
our lives? One answer may be because a life based on worthwhile
beliefs that offer us guidance, ought to include not just guidelines
for our conduct in relation to others but also in relation to
ourselves. In other words it will be balanced.
In many ways that word ‘balance’ goes to the heart of the matter.
The life which is spent dashing from one activity or person to
another rarely has time to make a satisfying contribution to any of
them, nor does it get true satisfaction in return because ‘there
just wasn’t/isn’t or won’t be, TIME.’
What is it that drives this often frenetic activity, be it in our
social lives or in the world of business? Often an underlying cause
is FEAR. The fear of being left out – “If I don’t go I may not
get included next time” is just as big a motivator in the business
world as in the social whirl. We also often include our offspring in
the ‘I’ because we do not want them to be overlooked either.
There is also the fear of not being liked which causes us to do
whatever it takes to please those we want to impress.
‘Meeting-itus’ is the way I saw much of the so called ‘vital’
activity in the worlds of business and local government when I was a
part of them. Sometimes meetings were quite helpful, a few were even
necessary, too many were excuses for not making a decision, passing
the buck or stroking the right ego. All took time and put pressure
on what was left to the participants for creative thought and mature
reflection if the dulling of the senses by the meetings had not made
this all but impossible.
Very frequently the ordinary day in the ordinary life is much the
same as the business world I have described in the early and middle
years of our lives. It is often a failure to recognise the dangers
inherent in this excessive busyness that leads to at least three
undesirable outcomes.
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Our children may come to reflect the least desirable aspects of our frenetic behaviour.
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We may not have time to discover who we really are while we can still alter course.
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As we enter our autumn years, we all too frequently hang on to the past because we believe it will provide us with security and it is, after all, the only way we know.
Too often, when people have lived like this, they seek to impose
their own generation’s unamended views on their children and
grandchildren and use emotional and financial blackmail to achieve
their objective. That way has dangers for all concerned. When we
are stuck in the past then the risk we run lies in our failure to
learn today’s language. Language, like attitudes, is in constant
flux and unless we, at the very least, keep abreast of language we
will have no hope of coping with the emerging customs of our time.
That way leads to loneliness and even isolation.
Danger lies in wait for the unwary parent in particular because a
lack of wisdom and maturity will be passed from parent to child down
the generations if it is allowed to. In other words family can be
good but our unquestioning acceptance of all its requirements is
unwise. ‘Family’ must allow us to mature as the individuals we
are. ‘Close-knit’ can be very supportive but equally maybe
suffocating and self-seeking.
What might be a starting point for the avoidance of these traps? For
example, if we take the words “GOING BEYOND”, can they help us?
I think they can, especially if we look at adding a few extra words
to them such as ‘the ties that bind’. Going along with family
traditions, relationships and expectations can be ties that bind us
to ways of going about things which would not ordinarily be our
choice. We need to be respectful but not at the expense of our own
development. This is especially the case when we have our own family
to consider. ‘My family’ can be a very emotive expression when
it seems to excludes, for example, a spouse or partner’s family.
Finding Authenticity
I have already alluded to FEAR as being a major, if hidden problem
for many. We are afraid of exclusion, of being an outsider - thought
of as being a bit of an ‘oddity’. Even politicians speak of
wanting to be at ‘the heart of Europe,’ or, ‘at the table.’
They want to be in the clubhouse making the big decisions, not on the
fringe looking through the window, even though the clubhouse merely
contains another session of buck-passing!
So ‘our family’ can help us to feel safe in an unfriendly and
threatening world. It gives us a voice and an acknowledged place in
the pecking order albeit in a limited environment. However, a family
cannot, and indeed should not, do any more. It cannot try to shield
us from the reality that we have to learn how to live our own lives.
We have to make our mistakes and cope with their repercussions. When
someone else picks up the pieces for us we do not really learn as we
should. We also have to use the language of our own generation and
then discern for ourselves what we should take into our own
vocabulary and what to preserve from the past. What emerges from
this is our own language for the future.
So we need to develop an authentic voice of our own and when we get
into mid-life this is something to which we should give special
attention particularly if we have not done so before. In the first
half of life we live by the rules, jump through the hoops and play
the cultural games of youth. However, as we approach our middle
years we ought to be recognising that there is more to life than
this.
What I am suggesting here is that while it is necessary for society,
institutions and government to have structures in order to function
and command some sort of respect, human beings are individuals who,
as they mature, need to look beyond the bureaucratic in order to live
whole lives. I suggest that bureaucracy is about control but
maturity demands authenticity in the whole person.
The maturity of which I speak ought of necessity to change the way we
relate to family and friends as well as society and our part in it.
It is often the fear of giving offence, altering the balance perhaps,
in sensitive areas like this that can cause us a problem. Those who
in the past have determined who we are may not like it if we start to
develop a different understanding of our previous position and future
interests. However, when we have children of our own to whose family
do they ‘belong’? I ask this because we need to bear in mind that
they start out with at least three families and not just ‘ours’ –
whichever or whatever we think that is.
Looking Beyond
At this point I need to draw attention to a human tendency,
especially common in the West, namely to view everything in an
“either/or” dualistic manner. I mean by this, black or white,
good or bad, for or against. Our government for example is ‘us and
them’; those in power and the opposition. Our justice is ‘innocent
or guilty’. Especially when we are young, ‘our team, our group,
this pop star’ dominates and shapes our thinking and we are
satisfied with this quick and easy way of accepting or ignoring.
After all, we say to ourselves we have not got time for ‘maybe’
and we want desperately to be on the winning side.
Maturity requires us to move past this limited way of thinking where
an idea is put forward, tested and either disproved or accepted until
a better idea comes along. Thus, in our middle years, we may awaken
to the fact that many things do not quite fit into such as easy
two-dimensional pattern and that we need to look more deeply We
begin to recognise that there were some matters which, in our early
certainties we put on one side believing we could ignore them, but
now we see it is not quite that easy.
The biggest of these deferred questions is ‘what next?’ Perhaps
we need to address the possibility that life does not conclude when
we die. Belief and experience, which have no physical expression, do
not lend themselves to the sort of two-dimensional scrutiny we can
offer at this stage of human development and expertise. What, for
example, do we make of the following?
A few years ago I had an operation which required a general
anaesthetic. Immediately beforehand, the anaesthetist asked me what
I would dream about. I told him that in previous operations I did
not dream but that, according to others I did speak! I asked him to
remember if I said anything and to let me know. After the operation
the anaesthetist came to see me. He reported that when I was well
and truly anaesthetised he accompanied me on my trolley into theatre.
Just as the surgeon was about to start the operation I apparently
said “I see Jesus coming to me” and everything went haywire and
took several minutes to stabilise. This very experienced doctor said
he had never encountered anything like it before and would prefer
never to do so again! Science would find this difficult to cope
with.
I accept that the problem which looms as we begin to explore possible
answers to the ‘what next’ question is that religion, which can
be a potential source of answers, has in many instances succumbed to
the very same difficulty we face elsewhere. Just as families, clubs
and institutions have hierarchies, politics and bureaucracy, so do
religious organisations. The result is that dogma and orthodoxy tend
to stifle debate and to shy away from difficult questions.
So in all these areas we need, I suggest, to dare to ‘go beyond’.
This does not mean ‘abandon’ but ‘fill out,’ or ‘grow on
from,’ develop if you like, and not allow ourselves to be held back
by what has gone before.
Task 2
Spirituality and belief in
prayer.
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Spirituality versus religion or can it be both and to the benefit of both. How do you view/deal with these two approaches to the Beyond?
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What does prayer mean to you? Are there experiences relating to prayer which you are prepared to share?
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Where do you find it easiest to pray? Do you have a particular ‘hallowed’ place? What, if anything, do you picture when you pray?
Chapter Two
Spirituality and belief
in prayer.
One of today’s most popular statements, if the subject of religion
crops up, is ‘I am not religious but I am spiritual.’ Sometimes
this translates into a belief that there is ‘something out there’
whereupon there is a general inclination to nod in agreement. It is
my experience, however, that what or who the
‘something’ is, poses significant problems when it comes
to any agreement on what it might be.
In this area, this generation is no different from its predecessors I
suspect. Indeed, the major world religions are a response to the
problem of what is ‘out there’ and ‘what comes next’. The
difficulty is that with religion, as with all human ventures, we
institutionalise them. We build huge structures and hierarchies and
pecking orders. This means that those who want power over others can
gain it and those who want to be important but pass the buck can form
a committee. Incidentally it’s also a good arrangement for those
who love breaking away and forming a new group. (In the film ‘Life
of Brian’ this point was made by reference to an organisation the
Popular Front of Judea which had one member and was a break-away from
the Judean Popular People’s Front!) It is an interesting thought
that although religious institutions can be the repositories of great
truths, wisdom and insight, sadly all too often these get overlooked,
having been overtaken by the desire to maintain the institution
itself.
Why does this happen? Perhaps it is because of two very powerful
human desires. One is the wish to belong and the other the desire to
own. We want to belong to our family, community, work group, club,
friendship groups and so on. We also like to own our own space.
Think of the wars fought for ‘our nation’ and ‘our land’.
They are just big pictures of our little family group and places. As
a one-time private practice solicitor, I know that boundary disputes
are meat and drink to lawyers, just as on a bigger scale national
land disputes are big bucks to politicians.
What, we have to ask ourselves, is the price exacted by our desire to
belong? For example, do the ties we have to the ‘here and now’
prevent the discovery of what might offer us a glimpse of what lies
beyond? The majority would have us conform because society is wary
of those who do not see any reason to ‘fit in’. For instance, my
dog collar often provokes antagonism and makes me conscious that what
I see as a commitment to be of service, others perceive
as a threat or challenge.
An example of what I mean occurred some years ago in a fast food
restaurant where my daughter and I were sharing a lunch-time meal. A
group of young men a few tables away spotted that I was a member of
the clergy and, we deduced, sent one of their number to provoke a
confrontation. The chap in question walked round and round our table
saying various things intended to shock. My daughter, who was, and
still is, far more street-wise than I am, told me to keep talking and
looking at her and to avoid eye contact with him. Eventually he gave
up but not without a final burst of expletives.
The response to a dog collar is akin to the general response to any
question relating to one’s beliefs. It makes people nervous. It
matters little whether an individual believes in some aspect of
religion or thinks that such beliefs are a waste of time. Against
that backdrop, words like ‘proof’, ‘facts’, ‘evidence’,
and ‘research’ have almost assumed a religious status as tokens
of the new order.
It is at this point that a great divide begins to reveal itself.
This is because whereas secular political correctness loves the new
semi-religious language of science I have already mentioned, it
equally shies away from words like ‘belief’, ‘perception’ and
‘free-will’. By perception I mean that which I cannot perhaps
‘know’ as such but which I sense, feel or about which I have a
‘gut instinct’.
Let me offer an example. Someone asks me to pray with them. They do
not want to talk about their problem but they say they have an
important decision coming up. We pray and I lay hands on them.
I offer the picture that comes into my mind and I say ‘”I see an
old pack horse bridge and you are standing on its highest point
facing me. Although you can’t see it, you have a flute hanging in
the air about your head and my message to you is ‘follow where it
leads.’ I say a prayer of blessing and there matters rest for
nearly 30 years.
It is much later that one of my sons returns to live in the town
where that prayer time took place. One day he is approached by the
person with whom I had prayed, who asks him to give me a message. It
was that the decision for which prayer had been asked all those years
ago pertained to a job offer which, if accepted would have meant a
move overseas on a sky-high salary. On the other hand remaining in
England would mean that an important relationship which had been
developing for some time could be pursued. However, the lady in
question would not be able to travel abroad because of family
obligations and it would be unfair for the man with whom I prayed
even to mention it to her as a possibility. In the event the man
asked the lady to marry him and she agreed. They have three lovely
children, now all adults, and are still very happy. What is more he
said, “Do tell your dad I have always loved hearing my wife play
the flute, which she still does!”
Believing in the power of prayer, having the faith to listen to the
response and the perception to recognise its significance and
meaning, are not amenable to the sort of investigation that leads to
facts. The adherents of the secular approach would regard my story
about the flute as nothing more than a series of coincidences. It
bears repeating, however, that when prayer stops so do the
co-incidences!
We each have our own ideas about how to make sense of what lies
beyond the here and now and how to make it easy to understand and
cope with and so what I want to do next is to offer you my own way of
looking at this by reference to the word ‘God.’
“It is Complicated”
I have lost count of the number of times I have been told that God is
too big a subject, and therefore too complicated to think about. One
young lady even told me that thinking about God made her brain hurt.
Yet the very same people will spend hours analysing the lives of
celebrities, the question of whether such and such a goal was offside
or the plot lines and characters of television soap operas or films.
This leads me to suspect that how we spend our time and what we think
taxes our brains too much, has more to do with what we think is
important and perhaps following the crowd, than what is actually too
complicated.
For me God started out as big, remote and inaccessible. I was sent
rather than taken to church because I could sing and was therefore
told I was joining the parish church choir when I was seven. So it
was that God for me became something mysterious, hidden in the smoke
of the incense and rituals of the sanctuary of our Anglo-Catholic
parish Church. God was, in other words, rather as the Israelites
perceived him when Moses ascended the Holy Mountain to bring down the
ancient law. He was a distant and angry God of laws to be obeyed and
wrath to be endured, a God of smoke and thunder.
Later Jesus came into my life and, in effect, said to me, “Look,
those laws are a useful guide to good living, and I don’t take
anything away from them, but to make it easier I have condensed them
from ten to two, namely ‘love God’ and secondly, ‘love your
neighbours as yourself.’- You don’t really need anything else.”
Two questions spring to mind – namely:
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How hard is that?
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How can we give away what we have not got, namely love: in other words do we love ourselves enough to give love away?
It all sounds so easy yet turns out to be far more difficult to make
work. Nevertheless, for me, Jesus has become over the years the
example of how it can be done and he is also the anchor that hauls me
back when I drift off course.
Then there is the indispensable, howbeit mysterious, Holy Spirit sent
to us by the Father at the request of Jesus the Son. I do not intend
to go in detail into the work of that third aspect of the Christian
Trinity. I will confine myself to saying that it is the pattern
of the Trinity that can help us so much. I see it like this. Our
Father in heaven is my ultimate destination; Jesus the Son is my
example of how to get there and the Holy Spirit is my guide. God is
the totality from which we came and to which we are given the means
of returning. We who are told we are made in God’s image, are also
a trio, namely body, mind and spirit and they together presently
house and nurture our souls. In other words, just as with God, the
three comprises a fourth. So there we have it, namely the
destination for our souls. That part of us that goes on beyond death
can seek to return to the God in Heaven from which it came. That can
be, if we choose to make it so, the point and purpose of our lives.
How in the meantime do we nurture those souls? The answer is, I
believe, to promote our spiritual lives. Our example for doing so
can be Jesus and the life he lived. He did indeed provide us with
teaching during his lifetime and some of his followers have left us
with instruction they have found helpful.
To me this makes sense and I call in aid to endorse something that
happened when I went to the evening Mass as it was called at St
Margaret’s Anglican Church in Ilkley the evening before the
operation I referred to earlier.
I had asked for anointing and the laying-on of hands during the
Service I experienced a vision of the risen Jesus coming towards me
and ‘walking into’ me, coupled with the words “As I am in you,
you are in me.” This experience was accompanied by an enormous
almost overwhelming sense of peace and calm.
I have mentioned this because here I am drawing together two threads
of what I am presenting to you. I said earlier that the church is a
repository of truth, wisdom and traditions which have stood the test
of time. In approaching the Church at a time of need I was availing
myself of this tradition and in particular asking for the healing
protection of Jesus. I was also acknowledging that above and beyond
any other important relationship in my life, there was then and is
now the one that Jesus affords me. That in no way demotes my wife
because we share the same viewpoint on this. In other words we stand
united in this viewpoint under God.
Here I have offered you His response at that evening service and
earlier I gave you the affirmation of that response by his presence
the next day. So now we have in place positive and practical
features to which we all have access on all and any occasion, namely
the ability to pray and to seek prayerful support.
What does prayer mean? It is simply being still, clearing our minds
of all the clutter we store there and talking to that which we
believe will listen and respond to us. In the next chapter I will
expand on that statement with some practical frameworks but for now I
want to make three observations on prayer.
The first is that I believe that in praying I am doing what Jesus
tells me to do and following his example in doing so. Jesus, the
model on which I base my life, does not ever tell me to do something
unless he himself has done it first.
Then there is a contemporary reflection. I observe time and again
couples sitting together each engrossed in their individual mobile
phone on which attention is focussed in the joyous union of the
shared network. Often these days an entire family’s unifying
feature is the shared internet connection. For the Christian who is
serious about his or her faith the equivalent will be a prayer life
shared with fellow Christians as a family and complementing the
individual prayer life shared in relationship with Jesus.
Furthermore it is important to note that prayer of itself does not
divide people who pray out of different faiths or traditions even
though the exact focus of their prayer may vary from one to another.
The River
The third point for those who contemplate the Beyond, is that prayer
unites us with those who have gone before us as well as those who
will come after us. The river of prayer that we rejoin each time we
pray has never ceased to flow. It comes to us from the Beyond and
returns from whence it came. The consequence of this understanding
of prayer is the recognition that neither age, nor infirmity, nor
gender, or status constitute a barrier to prayer. Some Christians may
bar me from the Eucharist or Mass in their traditions but I know of
none that would stop me from praying with them.
As I mentioned before, there are many very instructive prayer
traditions both within the Christian tradition and elsewhere. Words
such as ‘contemplation’ and ‘meditation’ also feature
extensively in the world of spirituality. We shall come to these
later. For now, however, it bears mentioning that there is no one
way of praying that we are required to observe. To me it seems that,
as with human activity generally, each of us finds the way and place
which suits us best. The fact that we pray is the important thing.
In conclusion, we can observe that Jesus does give us one instruction
and that is to find a place where we can pray. He often withdrew
into the wilderness and likewise it is good to be alone if we can.
Sometimes that is not possible as I know from my times in hospital.
Personally I prefer to focus on creating a ‘place apart’. This
can be a physical place like a spot dedicated to prayerfulness such
as a corner of a room or whatever the space available to us allows.
On the other hand it can be a place we picture in our mind’s eye to
which we can go wherever we are. In either case it is the state of
mind and commitment associated with our ‘place’ that is important
rather than the place itself. I have also found that the rhythm of
walking and the ability to see and rejoice in creation as I do so,
enables me to converse and listen in complete privacy.
Mary Wesley, mother of the Wesley brothers John and Charles, had a
large number of children and a relatively small house. There was a
stool by the kitchen range and it was known by the children that if
their mother sat on the stool and put her apron over her head then
she was at prayer and silence was the order of the day.
When it comes to the ‘what-to-pray-about’ of prayer, I would ask
you to take as a guideline the fact that in the Christian tradition
God loves us and wants a relationship with us. When we communicate
with those we love, it is the fact of our creating the space to talk
and their ability to hear us that is far more important than the
subject matter. I know of folk who live alone for whom the sound of
a human voice enquiring as to their well-being is positively angelic.
A text message, although better than nothing, rarely has the same
healing quality as actually knowing that someone has taken the time
and trouble to let us hear that someone really cares.
Task 3
Focusing our lives - The
pursuit of wisdom
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What qualities do you see as life affirming compared with the cultural values with which we are surrounded?
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How to you assess the state of your spiritual ‘wealth’? Against who or what do you measure it?
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How do you combat the cultural pressures when they run counter to your spiritual values? How hard is it to live ‘in’ the world but to stand apart from it?
Chapter Three
Focusing our lives -
The pursuit of wisdom
As discussed in previous chapters, we are aware that people can be
shaped by their fellow travellers, environment and relationships to
such an extent that the true self is prevented from emerging. Does
an alternative approach exist which does not require us first to don
the cloak of some religion or another before we understand what the
purpose of doing so might be? Yes, I think there is.
Calling on my own experience I look back forty years and discover a
man in his mid-thirties, father to four young children with a
responsible job in the senior management of a major financial
institution. At that time I was facing the first of the sort of
questions that a young enquiring mind can pose to a parent. I would
have classified myself as a Christian, put C of E on a census form
and jumped through the formal hoops of Sunday worship as and when it
was essential. However, I asked myself - what did I really believe
and why?
My pursuit of the answers to those questions was started, I am sure,
by promptings from my Guardian Angel and subsequently with the
revelation that Jesus was NOT a Christian but a Jewish Rabbi. I knew
that this was so but had not appreciated its full significance.
Why was this single revelation important? Simply because I have come
to recognise that Jesus tried to open the minds of his fellow Jews to
possibilities beyond the religious beliefs of his day and in the
process gave us the most extra-ordinary insights into the
relationship between now and the Beyond. That realisation was the
springboard, and has become the continuing inspiration, for
everything in my ongoing journey ever since.
I recalled that very early in my life, perhaps when I was 8 or 9
years old, I heard a talk on the radio about Albert Schweitzer. I
learnt that he once said of the music of Bach that ‘all music
flowed from Bach.’ So twenty-five years later when posed that
question by my son I realised that all of my understanding of the
Beyond had come from Jesus. He had gathered all the wisdom that had
preceded him and presented it for us in a new and accessible way and
everything I knew about wisdom came from him.
What is the essential nature of that wisdom and how can we use it in
our own time? I think it can best be summed up in this way. In the
first half of our lives we spend our time establishing our
individuality, who we are and what we stand for. In other words it
is very much ego to the fore and especially so today in a society
which worships celebrity and material possessions. It is the time of
life for ‘I’ ‘me’ & ‘mine’ and our image and our
success compared with others is very important to us. However,
Wisdom tells us that these things are not nearly as important as we
would like to think.
For example one piece of ancient Jewish wisdom tells us that a child
is born with its fists clenched ready to fight for everything, yet an
old woman dies with her hands wide open because she knows there is
nothing worth taking.
The second half of life is there to enable us to recognise that ‘I’
‘me’ & ‘mine’ – and I have deliberately placed inverted
commas round those words – are nothing like as important as we
would imagine, indeed they can constitute a huge obstacle to our
maturity. After all, the final part of life’s journey is one that
we will each make alone. How we prepare ourselves for that and the
Beyond is the task and cutting our egos down to size and then getting
rid of them, is the most important step along the way.
I am reminded of a McMillan nurse I knew who told me of a
conversation she had had one morning at 3am. with a titled gentleman
who had just come face to face with the reality of his situation. He
had spent his time in the hospice where he was being cared for,
holding board meetings of his various companies and in consultation
with accountants and lawyers over business deals. He had also held
several family meetings with relatives of various sorts and degrees
of proximity. In other words this man was in control and everybody
both knew it and also where they stood in his hierarchy of
importance.
Two things will no doubt register with you about this account of the
end of a man’s life. Firstly, as is the case in many families,
they too can be run like a business. Everybody knows who is in
control and everybody knows where they stand in the pecking order.
Secondly, as the man himself said that morning at 3 o’clock to this
McMillan nurse (who to all intents and purpose was a complete
stranger) “I have just realised that I have no idea where I am
going next or how to get there. I’ve done everything I wanted in
my life except the one thing that really matters and now it is too
late.” Fortunately for him this confession of total vulnerability
was made to someone who was able to help – and so it is NEVER TOO
LATE!!
However, the point of this story is that not everyone has the good
fortune to be in a hospice with a Christian nurse at the end of their
life. That man’s family, friends and business associates had not
addressed with him the most important thing he had to deal with in
his last days, even though some of them might have been able to help
him. Given wisdom one starts much sooner and, as a result,
hopefully, sees the road ahead begin to emerge.
So we need some ground rules. Our starting point is to look long and
hard at those three words: ‘I’ ‘me’ & ‘my’. We have
already looked at how much ‘I’ can be shaped by others and their
demands and expectations of us rather than by our own assessment of
what really matters. What, however, of ‘me’ & ‘mine’?
Who is this ‘me’ might be a good place to start. As to ‘my’
and its best friend ‘mine’, if we are honest nothing ever truly
is ‘mine’ is it? For example, we often share our parents, who
are in any event often grandparents and aunts and uncles as well as
themselves being children, friends and employees or employers of
people we do not even know. What is truly ‘mine’ and what, if
anything, is its true worth? I am deeply suspicious of the term
‘best friend’ in this context especially when applied by a parent
to a child! It usually means that the parent has not let the child
fully grow up. It also implies that, however old the body maybe, the
parent has not yet matured. If it were otherwise the parent would
let the child go and make its own mistakes in order to mature.
Our journey towards maturity and the wisdom it brings, begins in
earnest when we start to take stock of our time already spent here.
We should call that fact to mind when ultimately we do so in, order
to learn if we merit a place in the Beyond. We need to be prepared
to stand alone. There will be no spouse or partner, no parent,
sibling or child, and no best friend. That realisation is not meant
to frighten, but to prompt realism. We need to appreciate that it
will be of no avail to argue that we allowed others to shape who or
what we became and how we spent our time, deployed our resources or
treated other people.
What do we need to do to reshape our approach to life in order to
undertake this preparation in earnest? I have alluded to a more
mature approach to our egoistic tendencies including our
possessiveness and love of status. Wisdom, however, requires
something even more counter-intuitive than this. It asks us to turn
our cultural conditioning on its head.
Again I turn to my example for guidance. Bear with me because as I
have said before but now repeat for emphasis – I do so because I
see Jesus of Nazareth as a wisdom teacher available to all and, as
such he has attracted followers way beyond his family, geographical
and cultural boundaries.
That fact alone should alert us to the universal nature of his
teaching. Remember Jesus was a Jewish teacher NOT a Christian. It
was his followers both Jews (some) and Gentiles (many) who founded
Christianity. The Christian church, which in the West comes in for
so much criticism, is merely a repository in which the teachings of
Jesus and its practice since very early times are stored though they
maybe under utilised in my opinion.
It is on that basis that I turn to the teachings of Jesus about
wisdom for practical guidance on reaching out to the Beyond. The
example I have chosen is taken from what is known as the ‘Sermon on
the Mount’ and its very familiarity has for many, perhaps, dulled
its edge and so, also, its impact. However this series of
statements, each beginning with the word ‘Blessed’ were, in their
day, nothing short of revolutionary and they retain that
trans-formative power. These teachings sought to give those at the
bottom of the Jewish social structure a way through to the very top
of it.
How do they seek to achieve this?
Matthew 5 3-10
“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of
heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they
shall be satisfied.
Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for
theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”
First and foremost the Beatitudes turn the world upside down. Forget
about jumping through religious hoops. Anyone who so chooses can go
to Mass each day or kneel in the direction of Mecca and recite some
prayers or perform some other ritual. The question is this: that
although people who do these things may look good on the outside,
what are they actually like on the inside? By contrast ‘Blessed’,
(that is to say sanctified and dedicated says Wisdom) is the one who
is ‘poor in spirit’. What on earth does that mean? Surely
holiness comes through observing the prescribed rituals, whatever
they are in whichever society, culture or religion, we happen to be.
Indeed we may not even call it holiness or dedication. It may be
just the routine or ritual for being accepted into whatever club,
group or strata of society we are aiming at. A bit like lifting the
masonic trouser leg or wearing the right team scarf.
If we have no interest or belief in the Beyond then the right
‘friending’ routine, expressing the right ‘likes’, having the
right trainers or phone, going to the right gym, knowing where to get
the right fix and how to get into the right raves, gigs, parties, or,
indeed the right school – all these will do their job, so that we
are in with the crowd and accepted on our chosen path. However, if
we are poor in spirit then we will be very wary of these socially
acceptable paths, because we will observe that they are all
irrelevant to what really matters, namely knowing where we are going
and living as if we are already there.
Poverty of spirit is the acceptance that, whatever our lot in life,
we are the most greatly blessed if we can catch a glimpse of what
lies beyond the merely material to what Shakespeare described as
‘that undiscovered country from, whose bourne no traveller
returns.’ This description taken from the Hamlet soliloquy ponders
the dilemma posed by the contemplation of suicide. Does it make
sense to end a troublesome life when death might end up taking one
into a far worse situation? After all, Hamlet muses, no one has come
back from that journey and been able to say alternatively what the
country beyond death is like.
Therein lies the problem perhaps, for we run out of words. How can
we conduct an argument when it is left to the poets to describe what
we are talking about? I cannot describe easily what happened at the
service when Jesus came to me. I ‘know’ it was Jesus, I ‘know’
he came ‘into’ me but my ‘knowing’ is inaccessible to testing
or logic. All I can say is that the anaesthetist also ‘knew’ it
the next day!
So the question we arrive at is this: ‘Can we get to a point in
our journey where we see the falseness of the values generally
adopted by our culture and replace them with a different approach?’
Can we abandon preferences based on external assessments which value
beauty, fashion, celebrity, material possessions and status and
replace them with an approach to life governed by the internal value
of a love which is received from the Beyond and reaches out with what
it can then offer?
This approach can be seen as a life which is lived in
the here and now but is not of it. It requires us both
to love our neighbour and also discern when it is nevertheless right
for us to stand apart from those more baseless aspects of his or her
values and conduct. Such a way of living will be seen by the many as
leaving us in poverty but the few will recognise that we are indeed
blessed.
How does Wisdom help us in this quest to find a different approach to
our lives? Well, in my case I was forced back to an exploration of
one of those words which are so unpopular today, namely ‘holiness.’
Like so many older words that fall into disrepute, the reasons
behind their decline are often a complex mixture of the real and the
imaginary. If holiness is supposed to be a characteristic of
religious organisations then clearly many fall short. But then, what
do we expect? After all the religious organisations are full of
people, and people notoriously get it wrong.
Here, you might agree with me, is a classical example of baby and
bathwater. We debunk ‘holiness’ because those who are trying
(some of them at least) to be holy are failing. Then, because of the
failure of the Institution, namely the bathwater of religious
organisation, we also throw out the baby – namely holiness itself.
Indeed it becomes a derogatory term namely ‘Holy Joes.’
I am sure we can all think of examples from the world around us which
exemplify the utter poverty of the values applied to the choices that
are made. As I write, the news is full of the so-called male
celebrities who are accused of various kinds of sexual misconduct.
Indeed daily we find our media full of such stories and others
relating to power struggles and violence both personal and collective
such as in wars of various kinds. Male mostly (but increasingly,
very sadly, female) aggression seems to be endemic in human society.
Recent events have uncovered the systematic abuse including rape of
under-age girls in towns and cities in the United Kingdom by
organised gangs of males. Shamefully such conduct was not prevented
or prosecuted nor was it seen as inherently wrong by the
perpetrators. Those involved seem incapable of recognising that such
conduct both shames and degrades all humanity.
However, until we acknowledge this utter lack of holiness for what it
is, we are inevitably caught up in its backwash. We can guard
against this only by consciously making ourselves what it is not,
namely holy. We do that by constantly acknowledging our poverty,
namely our failure to be holy, and replacing it with love which we
look to receive, adopt as our own and then impart to others. Then,
as Wisdom says “Blessed are the poor in Spirit”. Saying ‘no’
to society’s values and adopting and pursuing those of love is the
beginning of holiness and, in my view, Wisdom is its midwife.
Task
4
Making a difference -
Spirituality in action
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Can you identify people or activities you feel tied to but which, if you are honest with yourself, you really need to reassess? (sometimes called “ties-that-bind.”)
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How do you cope with ‘mystery’? Can you name any mysteries you have accepted with beneficial outcomes?
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Do you have an ‘inner’ place that you can use for quiet times? Can you share anything about it or what it is like?
Chapter Four
Making a difference -
Spirituality in action
There are many views on what comes after we have, as Shakespeare put
it in the mouth of Hamlet, ‘shuffled off this mortal coil’.
Speaking personally, I regard the precise nature of our existence
beyond the here and now as not being half as important as
appreciating the significance of the belief that something of what we
have been continues after our bodies have served their allotted span.
Mystery is to me a natural part of life. I do not doubt that we
humans have the capacity to understand more than we currently do.
However, I see no evidence to support a view that we have yet evolved
much beyond early adolescence in terms of our journey towards being
civilised. By being civilised I understand that we can then include
much that is excluded if we choose to limit ourselves to merely
provable facts. Surely we ought to aspire to explore and experience
more than that. Instead humanity is collectively still too much
driven by its lust for power, sex, wealth and enjoyment for its own
sake. We are also far too violent and self-obsessed to be considered
mature even by our own limited standards and expectations.
Thus I rely on endeavouring to reach out to what lies 'Beyond.' I
find that as I do so, it is possible to achieve a level of peace that
makes the mystery of it all a perfectly acceptable part of what it
is. I do so knowing full well that I cannot prove it to others but I
know what I experience.
It is at this point that all sorts of practices and definitions rush
in to claim our attention. My acquaintance with people over the
years teaches me that we each have to make our own journey and that
we are wise if we establish, as we do so, a very small circle of
like-minded fellow travellers with whom we can share our experiences
in a spirit of acceptance and positive encouragement. It is also
good, from time to time, to be able to seek or provide support and
insight when it is needed. This, more than anything else,
distinguishes between genuine and worthwhile friendship from other
types of relationship. Again I have learned that especially when
relatives are involved there is nearly always an underlying agenda
whether we choose to acknowledge it or not. I cannot stress too
highly that nobody’s experiences are identical because each of us
is unique. However there are some who are much closer to us than
others and they are the ones we need to cherish. I also discovered
that a fourfold practice offers me the best response when it comes to
revealing my path, namely –
read or recall,
meditate,
pray
listen.
These are the key ingredients of the Wisdom process that works in my
case. They have also come to me, time honoured by all those who have
left for that other shore but whose legacy is available to us.
It will come as no surprise to learn that the Bible is pre-eminently
the reading on which I base my journey of discovery. There are
however, other authors who have helped me to map out the route I take
as well as wise words from fellow travellers I respect and trust.
Each of us will discover what is best through experience, advice and
recommendation if we have the right guides. The question is in all
of this; ‘what am I trying to do?’
The Picture
Perhaps I can best sum it up in this way. Imagine yourself as a
picture which early in life seems to be all there is. The world we
observe is comprised of pictures like ours, each one seeing itself as
a separate and distinct work of art. Some of us see ourselves big,
some small, some in oils, some watercolour, some merely pen and ink
sketches, but we all think of ourselves as unique. Over the years
however, we come to recognise that our picture has aspects which seem
to fit in neatly with someone else’s picture and others likewise
with ours. Over time these additions, as they become more attached,
slow us down and so the picture we have becomes distorted an
impediment, rather than helping us. Some folk may in fact never
recognise the problem or indeed see it as being one. It depends
doesn’t it, on what we perceive as being our purpose in life.
Can we improve on that outcome? I believe we can and that the answer
lies in recognising that the real picture is far, far bigger than we
imagined. It is one into which we will fit but whose entirety lies
not just here but also in the Beyond. We came from there and can
return, but in order to do so we need to shed our inhibiting
attachments to this existence and prepare to become part of that
larger reality. Wisdom teaches us that we are in fact not a picture
at all, but a tiny fragment of an infinite canvas in which we can
have our own unique place if we choose to claim it.
How can this be? Do we lose ourselves and cease to be what we are?
Jesus puts it this way. ‘You in me, me in you, just as I am in the
Father and the Father, who is also the ultimate reality, is in me.’
This is what the Christian Trinity is there to demonstrate to us.
It is an aid to understanding reality. Jesus came from the Beyond
and returned to it in order to show us that it is possible to be
unique, separate and distinct while simultaneously being an integral
and dependant part of a far greater, indeed timeless and infinite
whole. It is utterly beyond human understanding but entirely capable
of being accepted if that is our choice.
Living that life can, indeed ought, to begin in the here and now. It
is not unlike being told that in a while we are going to have the
opportunity to undertake an activity that we enjoy, but at a level
that requires a degree of extra knowledge and therefore, preparation.
We are wise if we begin to equip ourselves for what lies ahead now
because, as we do so, we learn to appreciate the benefits involved.
We will discover that it is also true of living life now in
accordance with our intention to continue doing so after our bodies
die. In other words life is a journey and death is nothing more than
a gateway through which we pass in order to continue it in a
different environment and therefore in a different way. However, we
play a crucial role in creating that environment by the choices we
make now, for Wisdom teaches that where our hearts are there will our
treasure be.
So what does that different environment look and feel like? Nobody
knows with certainty any more than anybody knows for sure that it
does not exist. All that we can assert is our belief in it.
However, we can add to that belief the beliefs of others whose
experiences we come to trust because they ring true. In this respect
the instinct of what has become known as ‘heart’ plays a vital
role as a counterbalance to the logic of reason of ‘the head’.
As with everything else what pertains to the Beyond, as we have said
previously, we are confronted with making choice. I think that the
best way to explain what I am trying to put across here is if I
describe what, for me, was a crucial part of my own journey.
Sometimes it is not until we are at a very low ebb that we can access
that which lies within us waiting for us to pay it attention.
‘Attention’ is a word which I use here to describe an action
which goes far beyond merely thinking about something. Thus, by
attention I mean being focussed on our purpose to the exclusion of
all else. That includes all those passing thoughts which rush in and
try to engage us in an internal dialogue. I am sure you all know
what I mean by internal chatter at which we are all very
accomplished! Attention goes past all that to get to the heart of us
and then goes even further.
On the day I have in mind, one incidentally which followed many
others involving trial and error, a picture came into my mind as I
reached a place of contemplation. I saw a room in which there was a
small round pool which I was invited to enter and I did so. After a
few moments, during which I was reassured and invited to remain
trusting, I found myself drawn down past smooth glistening white
walls containing windows into many rooms, until finally I stopped
descending, was drawn sideways and rose into another round pool but
in a very different setting.
Now I was in what seemed like a cave with a passage leading away from
it. I put on a bathrobe that lay by the side of the pool and went
down the passage to find myself facing a raging storm in the land
which lay beyond the cave from which I emerged.
I could not enter the storm because it was too strong and I
retreated. However, before I did so I observed a still figure
seemingly unmoved by the wind and dust swirling around him. I knew I
was being observed, reassured and told that what I was seeing was my
own state of inner turmoil.
I returned from that experience by reversing the journey. I stress
that I am describing here the process of reaching and then
experiencing a state of deep contemplation and that my sense of
reassurance and awareness was not through words spoken or heard but
was nevertheless imparted.
The following day I repeated the journey, only this time the land
beyond the cave was still and calm. I looked to the right to where I
had seen the figure and it was in that direction that I walked. I
was leaving footprints in the dusty path I was following until I came
to a place where the hillside to my left curved into a semi-circle
before returning to join the path. There were some rocks dotted
along the base of the hillside and I sat on one of these in order to
face outward to the path. All of this happened as if I were
receiving instructions, unspoken but nevertheless very clear.
I now became aware that I was facing a figure seated on a bench
formed by a thick slab of rock laid across two uprights. I
understood that this young man was the figure I had seen previously
and as he looked at me I was aware that I was known. I cannot put it
any other way than to say this man knew me and everything about me.
I bowed my head and began to cry and I saw my tears fall on the dust
between my feet. Almost instantly, where my tears fell, small
flowers began to grow. When eventually I looked up the bench was
empty but there was a presence all around me and I knew that somehow
I was not alone.
I have made the journey to that place many times since those distant
days. Sometimes to seek reassurance, on other occasions to bring
people in need, but always to listen and learn. This is a place
within me but the same space is present in each one of us. It is for
me a place which affirmed then, and re-affirms each day the ‘me in
you as you are in me’ which is, as I have said before, the message
that Jesus conveys in his teaching and which I heard in the service
at St Margaret’s.
I wonder if you have made a similar journey to mine and had
comparable experiences as a result.
A Reflection
As we have pondered some of the important strands in our lives, such
as the use of our time, the tussles between activity and reflection
has figured prominently. We all make choices which have
repercussions. Some are short-term, others life-long. I hope that
these thoughts have encouraged you to take the time to recognise them
and, perhaps, to see them for what they are, as well as to consider
the wisdom of them with all the benefits of hindsight.
I suspect that most of us, when we are old enough to do so, spend our
time looking forward to what will happen next. We do so eagerly and
“I just can’t wait” is an expression used fairly frequently.
In the middle years we are not so sure that eager anticipation is
necessarily all it is made out to be. It can be very tiring and may
be quite disappointing as we come to realise, for example, that the
achievement of material objectives is, more often than not, followed
immediately by their obsolescence.
In the eventide of life comes the privilege of time for reflection.
We may note for instance, that while some folk travel widely others
may not, whether by choice or circumstances. Jesus of Nazareth and
Paul of Tarsus are contrasting examples. Jesus stayed close to home
whereas Paul travelled extensively. Nevertheless such travelling as
each man did, left a deep mark on the lives of those they
encountered.
This contrast in approach between Paul and his Master calls to mind a
mission to an inner-city parish. At an initial meeting of
participants one person, an 80 year old called May, noted that,
having chronic arthritis, she would be of no use in walking the
streets knocking on doors. She was appointed our prayer guardian by
those of us who were sent out. She prayed us on our way, through our
journeys and for us on our return. It was a blessed and enriching
time for us all, whether we were called to travel or not.
Whether we witness on the doorstep or pray with others or alone, it
is the knowledge of who it is we serve and on whose example we build
our lives that is all-important. Offering to be of service means not
only finding our role but also accepting that it will change over
time. We must be sensitive to the right time to move on to the next
task.
Moving on is not just a matter of going physically from place to
place, for our attitude of heart and mind is also very much involved.
The leading surgeon who can give up the status that comes from being
a top consultant in order to work in a field hospital in a third
world country comes to mind. Albert Schweitzer is just such an
example of a response to vocation. However, openness, awareness and
obedience are not limited to the well-known but are accessible to us
all. The challenge is first to seek and then to be ready to respond.
The Master stands at the servant’s door
The knock when it comes is quiet but clear.
The question is, do I choose to hear
For change will come and I must be sure.
Is this the time to take on trust
The voice my heart cannot ignore.
My mind wants proof and asks for more
But love says facts turn faith to dust.
And so the door swings open wide
To let the warmth of love flood in
And then my heart and mind begin
The servant’s task, now unified.
Notes on Meditation
There is no right or wrong to meditate but over the years many wise
words of guidance have been given to us which can prove very helpful.
Two things above all else seem to be agreed upon, namely posture and
breathing. To sit comfortably as upright as possible with our feet
on the ground constitutes good posture. To breathe regularly is
recommended, using the intake of breath for good thoughts and
exhalation to expel the thoughts we wish to be rid of.
It is always helpful to recognise that meditation and contemplation
can and, it can be argued, should be seen as entirely separate
activities. Using food as an analogy, meditation is chewing things
over while contemplation can be seen as digestive.
Taking a Bible text and exploring it is meditation which ought to
lead to contemplation where one waits to discover deeper insights.
For a Christian this is where the work of the Holy Spirit begins in
earnest. It is also the place where we should spend time discovering
Silence, for that is where the here and now meet the Beyond.
Acknowledgements
This book has emerged from a
series of discussion groups inspired, organised and facilitated by my
daughter Viv Chamberlin-Kidd.
It's transition into its
present format would not have been possible without the help and
encouragement of Caroline Hind.
My very grateful thanks to
them both.
Copyright: Reverend A J E Kidd
(Tony Kidd) 2015